It’s rarely the case that every aspect of our lives went awry at the same time, and it’s critical to keep the right perspective when the going gets tough. More often than not, the raging fires in our lives hijack our attention and we fail to see the big picture. Zoom out on the issue and focus on the grand scheme of things. Remember that things aren’t as bad as they seem. As I penned out the victories, I found renewed faith in myself and in the unknown future, which may well bring the good instead of the bad like I feared. We forget that it always feels impossible until it’s done, and that we have overcome similar struggles in the past.Ī simple but extremely effective thing I did was to list down the occasions in my life where I busted through hurdles and rose above the seemingly insurmountable difficulties. When plodding through a challenging time, it’s natural to be gripped by fear, self-doubt, and pessimistic thoughts that we won’t be able to surmount the obstacles. Recall how you overcame similar struggles in the past. During times like these, I would distract myself by actively engaging in other areas of my life. Sometimes all we need to do is to simply let time pass and to resist the temptation to overreact and aggravate the problem. If we keep the faith and respond to the situation with positive and constructive actions, we can break out of the cycle and things can get better. When troubles strike, it can feel like things will only get worse, but that is the pessimist in us talking.
If you’re going through difficult times now, the following four reminders may help you be more resilient. It grew gradually as I practiced and incorporated into my life the valuable insights below. This newfound capacity did not develop overnight. My new life and the new me are still under construction, but I now have in me a spring of strength to propel me forward, regardless of setbacks or how grim a situation seems. Many times, I felt like I would never see the light at the end of the tunnel, and I struggled to find the strength to inch forward.įive years on, I finally came out the other side.
It was an arduous journey where I was often taking one step forward and two steps backward. It was a dark period of my life where everything was one blurry haze of tears.Īs those days of hopelessness stretched on, the only thing I could focus on was taking baby steps every day to build a new life and a new future.
I would wake up crying in the mornings, run to cry in public toilets during the day, and end my days crying myself to sleep. Shell-shocked, I spent that whole year crying. It was as if a tornado swept through my entire being and left me empty and devoid of hope, strength, and any ounce of self-belief. To say life knocked the wind out of me would be an understatement.Įach time I picked myself up, another blow would send me sprawling toward a sense of utter defeat. In a span of nine months, my marriage to a partner of eight years broke down, I lost four family members to unexpected deaths, and I suddenly found myself hurtled from living the dream life to being jobless, penniless, and homeless.
Were there times in your life where it felt anything that could go wrong went wrong? That was me five years ago. “However long the night, the dawn will break.” ~African Proverb
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